以下是引用小倩在2014-5-24 10:48:00的发言: 有时我们的“观点或看法”可能不一定完全一致,这很正常(要是两个人什么都完完全全一致反而不好玩了,也不大可能),都不必介意,且随意说说。
真是傻孩子呀,还专门解释一下,呵呵……
我那段“其实,任何女人,不论其是否美丽,如果她活着而从未爱过,都会令人叹息。”,已经是在与你持不同观点,你不也没生气,反而说我善良吗?朋友之间,不可能事事一致的,即使相互为镜,也并非只是自恋的在镜中寻找自己的美,其实更重要的是在镜中看见自己的不足。
人与人的交往、相处,其实都是这样:存小异,求大同,只要不是原则问题,都可以在保留自己的观点时退让的。当然,原则问题,决不让步。
咱俩都喜欢纪伯伦的《论友谊》,再温习一下其中的一些句子:
He is your field which you sow with love and reap with thanksgiving. And he is your board and your fireside. For you come to him with your hunger, and you seek him for peace. When your friend speaks his mind you fear not the "nay" in your own mind, nor do you withhold the "ay." And when he is silent your heart ceases not to listen to his heart; For without words, in friendship, all thoughts, all desires, all expectations are born and shared, with joy that is unacclaimed. When you part from your friend, you grieve not; For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain. And let there be no purpose in friendship save the deepening of the spirit. For love that seeks aught but the disclosure of its own mystery is not love but a net cast forth: and only the unprofitable is caught. And let your best be for your friend.
朋友是一片土地,你用爱耕耘,用感谢收获。 朋友是客栈,篝火。那里,你得到温饱,家的安逸。 朋友陈述见解时,不要隐藏你的赞同,也勿需担心你的异议。 朋友沉默无语时,你的心聆听他的心意。 因为,无言之中,友谊之间,极乐的境界是:交辉的思想,分享的愿望,共同的祈盼。 同朋友分手时,不要伤感; 因为他那些最可贵的品格,当他不在的时候可能才一显无遗,就像对攀登者来说,山的轮廓只有从平地上看去才更加清晰。 让友爱之间不存在任何目的,只有心灵的深邃。 因为,有来无往是一张只图捕获的网;那不是友谊,必将所得无几。 将你最好的部分奉献给朋友。
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